Excuse Me if I Call Bullshit

If I have one more seemingly well intentioned person try to convince me that being OK with being alone is some self serving monumental quest to becoming “comfortable with yourself” I swear my head with begin to spin uncontrollably while I spew out a vile green vomit!

Enough! I loathe that “canned answer” with a passion!

I make a distinction between solitude, alone and lonely. Seemingly so does a large part of society.

In short, my definition of solitude is the time spent with yourself gathering your thoughts, praying and meditating. A time to hopefully find some kind of inner peace, self awareness and acceptance of self (to the best of your ability).

My definition of loneliness is when you long for some type of human interaction that stimulates the senses. Good, bad or indifferent.

My definition of alone is anytime you find yourself without companionship of any kind, particularly harmful if it is experienced for an extended period of time.

I enjoy my times of solitude. I feel a profound sense of emptiness when I feel lonely. And, more times than not, I gain something valuable from companionship, therefore I don’t like being alone. And that’s OK!! It should not automatically be equated with a profound lack of self acceptance. It’s okay, and perfectly natural to experience self doubt. If that were not so then the world of self help Gurus, motivational speakers and literature would cease to exist. That’s not gonna happen anytime soon in today’s society.

So a friendly heads up.. Do not challenge me when I say I don’t like being alone. I’ll call bullshit every time!

Searching Still

“Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, vision cleared, ambition inspired, and success achieved.”
― Helen Keller

I love this quote. Lately I am in need of constant reminders that I can succeed. As selfish as it seems I hope that I am not alone in my journey.

I think often times we struggle, especially as women, that we hold the same worth as the next person. It seemingly takes years to develop such a self defeating attitude but it is my prayer that it does not take near as long to overcome it.

With every sunrise and sunset, and all the time in between, I search for positive reminders. I suspect that is the least I can do for myself and share with someone else.

With much love, Smarterwiser

One Step at a Time

I’ve spent some time going back and reading some of my posts. Most are very passionate and some a little humorous. But I realize this morning what’s missing. The obvious, the simple.

Nobody said life would be easy. That’s an understatement. I guess there are times like now, that you have to strip yourself bare and start over. In doing this you, I suppose, have no choice but to begin with the most elementary of all concepts.. Put one foot in front of the other.

My legs are wobbly, my footing precarious to say the least but here goes.. One step at a time.

A note to those who care about me, I’m counting on your help should I stumble and fall.

The ones who have been there and extended a hand to help me up in the past know who they are. The ones who helped knock me down a time or two, well you also know who you are. And so do I…